There's someone I've tolerated long enough.
I've once been those super enthu youths who are really keen to serve the society. Now that I've matured, the passion is still there, but I'm not the kind to go all the way anymore. That doesn't mean that my passion to serve has died.
What has changed, is my respect for you. That's because you have really low EQ, and are very rude.
Everyone has their own life choices, choosing the road we deem fit. It's not like I'm smoking, abusing drugs, or doing anything illegal/dangerous/self-destructing. You don't see me sitting on the stairs of a HDB block looking helpless, so please keep your opinions of what you think of me, to yourself, or I'd hate you more.
Firstly, I'm a Leo and am a really strong girl. There are only 2 possibilities for me to listen to your advices-
1) That you are my family/besties
2) I have respect for who you are, what you do and your successes.
As far as I'm concerned, those included are namely my family, my 74 Gang, Secondary school besties and the awesome people at Munkysuperstar.
You are definitely not one of them. Just because I'm not enrolled in Uni doesn't mean I've lost my way in life. I can even say, I'm smarter than you, and had more exposure than you. That has something to do with wisdom, not intelligence.
Point to note: It's not that my results don't qualify for uni, but that I have no intention of enrolling. Get your facts right, dude. Just because I can have legal sex now, doesn't mean I will.
Secondly, I hate that you disrespect the company I worked at. That's something I don't allow anyone to do, not even my besties.
During my time at MSP, I've heard people asking how the company was named. But when we last exchanged namecards, you outright JOKED about the company name, and I don't think that's the appropriate behavior coming from someone "who is very matured and experience". I think that's outright rude, and really annoying.
Do you think I've wronged you?
The last time we met, I told you I'm working on my own website. You kept asking what's the URL, and when you saw the design, you said "your website looks very tiong/cheena". And laughed following that statement.
FYI, China is a fantastic country just like Singapore. In comparison, just like how we have idiots in Singapore, you are the small percentage being uncultured with such mentality locally.
I'm not stupid. Your statement about it being tiong is a form of laughter at others' efforts. And that insult just embarrasses yourself.
Indeed, YOLOsg.com is new, and even as a media person, I often feel inferior to other media. But to me, that's okay, because every single day I'm fighting for something I believe in, am working to make it better, and ultimately, my own company.
What right have you got to mock at me? That you have that kind of job? It's still someone else's company, so get that fact drilled in your head, that you're still slogging for someone else's company no matter what you have now. Whatever you "have", is that company's. Not yours. Nothing to be cocky of.
Thirdly, I dislike your dishonesty.
I was beginning to avoid your calls because what you say is always about putting others down to show how great you are. Point in case, I already have a gauge of your capability years back. Others praising you is real compliment, asking others to praise you is just a social gesture, and people like you who praise yourself by putting others down? Well, there really isn't anything to be proud of.
The other day I asked you who's coming for the dinner and you said you invited "few others from your year" and "your batch of directors". And that's the only reason why I agreed to go. Only when we met, you said you only invited 3 of us, and I felt really cheated. I don't want to talk about the food that night, but listening to you preach and promote your job and company stuff like insurance agent, well, it was really awkward and uneasy a meal.
I may be poor, but I have my pride. If I have the chance, I'd rather return you all the meals money and not owe you anything.
Lastly, I hate how you don't respect others, and have no idea of the right social etiquette.
Chatting with you was always about proving yourself right. You said you see that I'm lost in life, and I told you that isn't the case. Just that I'm not pursuing the usual path but starting my own company. You asked, so do I have any intention of studying? I said not at the moment. So you concluded saying, see, you are lost.
And your argument about why children send their parents to old folks home?
I believe this question has been discussed in papers long enough. Your point was that "in actual fact, the children want to take care of the old folks, just that they don't have the ability". I can't believe that you actually believe that.
My distant relatives, a few friends and many articles on the papers have shown, that many people send their parents to old folks home for selfish reasons. If they can afford to buy big houses, change cars every few years, employ maids, have no children, have the time and money to go on vacations, how is that no ability to take care of parents?
I don't believe that every human being is kind to begin with. Many people are selfish, and being grown up and found the love of their lives, they are ready to ditch their parents to build their own family. That's why some people send their folks to the home, and never called, visited or even paid for it eventually. Let's not talk about that far. Even the present, you see how many people are willing to forgo family time to be with their lovers?
Old people work at coffeeshops, because locals kbkb about foreign talents, but without them, youths don't want to take up such jobs either. So the chances go to these people.
You asked, why can't old people be at home looking after their grandchildren instead? First, it is a social need to fill in the jobs, secondly, unlike the children, the employees are more likely to pay them for a job done. Many old folks help their children look after their grandchildren, only to be paid a little or none at all, and even has to cook for their whole family, wash all their clothes. Ultimately, some even lose their flats.
You are really too idealistic, if you think old folks should stay at home to look after their grandkids.
Because of all these that you have said and done, I've been increasingly pissed and lost respect for you.
One other minor point though. In chinese culture, it is a taboo to comment on other people's food. Anyone taught you that? My mom taught me never to say that someone else's dish is gross, and never to comment on how much and what they eat. But every time when I'm out with you, you always have a usually-unpleasant comment about my food. It makes it very uncomfortable eating with you.
No matter guys or girls, people still mind about what others say about their food. Guys don't like girls saying that WOAH WHY YOUR APETITE SO BIG, and girls don't really like guys comment about their food choices and portions either. What's the point, anyway?
Also, please learn to respect others. Respect others' wish when they say they do not want to talk about business or their companies during mealtimes. Please stop probing, especially company private&confidential stuff that you shouldn't even be asking in the first place.
Lastly, please stop looking down on people's passion for their jobs. Just because I left my workplace doesn't mean I've lost my passion for the industry. Never is that EVER going to happen. Not in a million billion years. I just know what I want and how I want.
Last words for you?
One who counsels others usually ends up being counselled, and a doctor who cures patient would one day need to be treated as well.
Upon finishing this entry, I took the time to reread and make sure I've used the right words. It suddenly occurred to me that there's something else creepy that this person does. That's that when I avoid the phonecalls and don't answer, you'd use some other unknown phones to call just so we would pick up. I've recently realised that I'm not the only "victim" of your tactic. Please stop doing that.