03 October, 2012

Jennifer Livingston

十月是美国的反欺凌运动,而最近有位主播因为体型,收到一位男子的电邮辱骂。主播的丈夫把该电邮登载在面簿上,得到了庞大的回响。这件事也因此得到许多人的关注。

我也看了这次的视频,觉得挺重要,类似前天我登的《坦白》所要传达的信息,在此便把整段新闻稿写在这里分享。


I want to take a moment to address a situation that has become a talking point in this community over the past week, and especially on Facebook that centers around me.

On Friday I received the following email from a Lacross man with a subject line "Community Responsibility" and that reads as follows-

Hi Jennifer,

It is unusual that I see your morning show, but I did so for a very short time today. I was surprised indeed to witness that your physical condition hasn't improved for many years. Surely you don't consider yourself a suitable example for this community's young people, girls in particular. Obesity is one of the worst choices a person can make and one of the most dangerous habits to maintain. I leave you this note hoping that you'll reconsider your responsibility as a local public personality to present and promote a healthy lifestyle.

Now those of us in the media, we get a healthy dose of critics from our viewers around the year and we realise that comes with having a job in the public eye. But this email, was more than that.

While I tried my best to laugh off the very hurtful attack on my appearance, my colleagues could not do the same especially my husband, our six and ten anchor, Mike Thompson.

Mike posted this email on his WKBT Facebook page. What happened next has been truly inspiring. Hundreds and hundreds of people have taken the time out of their day and not only lifted my spirits, but take a stand that attacks like this are not okay.



And we're going to have more of that in just a second.

First, the truth is, I am overweight. You could call me fat, and yes, even obese on a doctor's chart. But to the person who wrote me that letter, do you think I don't know that? That your cruel words are pointing out something that I don't see?

You don't know me. You are not a friend of mine. You are not a part of my family, and you have admitted that you don't watch this show. So you know nothing about me, but what you see on the outside. And I am much more, than a number on the scale.

And here is where I want all of us to learn something from this-

If you didn't already know, October is national anti-bullying month, and this is a problem that is growing everyday in our schools and on the internet. It is a major issue in the lives of young people today and as the mother of three young girls, it scares me to death.

Now, I am a grown woman, and luckily for me, I have a very thick skin. Literally, as that email pointed out, and otherwise. And that man's words mean nothing to me. But what really angers me about this is that there are children who don't know better, who get emails as critical as the one I received, or many cases, even worse, each and every day.

The internet has become a weapon, our schools have become a battleground, and this behaviour, is learnt. It is passed down from people like that man who wrote me that email. If you are at home and you were talking about that fat news lady, guess what? Your children are probably going to go to school and call someone fat.

We need to teach our kids how to be kind, not critical, and we need to do that by example. So many of you have come to my defence over the past four days. I am literally overwhelmed by your words.

To my colleagues and to my friends from today and from years ago, my family, my amazing husband and so many of you out there that I would probably not never have any opportunity to meet, I would never be able to thank you enough for your words of support, and for taking a stand against this bully.

We are better than that email. We are better than the bullies that will try to take us down.

And I leave you with this - to all of the children out there who feel lost, who are struggling with your weight, with the color of your skin, your sexual preference, your disability, even the acne on your face, listen to me right now. Do not let your self worth be defined by bullies. Learn from my experience that the cruel words of one are nothing compared to the shouts of many.

We'll be right back.

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由于妈妈也在房里,我问她有关肥胖主播的看法。很显然的,她坦言自己也会看不顺眼,即使是新闻,也希望看到一些养眼的人。

开始有点震惊,后来想想也是,没什么好惊讶的。在我们的文化中,过度地强调统一、融合,每个人都有一把尺,衡量别人是否达到我们的要求。

不过,我觉得身为主播,你能够纠正她的发音、她的穿着,因为这些跟她所做的职业有关,跟实际的实力有关系。外表呢?她又不是舞蹈员、模特儿,那些行列都有胖妹了,为什么就要鄙视她?

我一直相信一句话,就是看到大家的共同点,知道我们都是同类,就不要互相歧视、欺负、排斥。

在灾难中的孩子,都失去了亲人,那是他们的共同点,因此能够忽略肤色的不同。

我们呢?无论高矮胖瘦,我们体内流的都是鲜红的血,其他的构造不一样又怎样?

近年来人们关注的忧郁症、强迫症等,往往压力就是因素之一。为什么我们要在可怕的生活环境中,为彼此带来更多的负担和心理压力呢?

在该面簿上也看到了一个说得很对的留言。

 
Jennifer可以用六个月的时间减肥,摆脱现在的形象。但六个月后,写那封电邮的混蛋,依旧会是个混蛋。