19 October, 2012

三思而行 · Think Again

 
十月是新加坡的乳癌宣传运动、美国的反欺凌运动,但更重要的是10月10日的世界精神健康日。

October is Singapore's Breast Cancer awareness month, and US anti-bullying awareness month. But most importantly, it is the month that World Mental Health day falls in.

其实小时候我并不知道有精神健康这么一回事。第一次明白,是张国荣跳楼自杀事件,因为那时候我的华文老师是他的粉丝。
I didn't know much about mental health at a very young age. The first time I understood was when an actor commited suicide, and that's only because he is my chinese teacher's idol.


之后,电视节目和报纸就陆陆续续刊登出许多有关忧郁症的报导。当时在年轻人中也吹起自残的歪风。

Following that came many news and features about depression. That was also when self-hurt was a fad among youths.

还记得那时候我有位学妹跑来告诉我,她的好朋友都拉着她,在下课后一起用小刀割手腕。
I remember a junior who came to tell me that her clique started having get-togethers to slit their wrists with a penknife.

当时她很害怕,但我并不知道应该告诉师长,只能够尽量劝她远离他们。幸好我的无知并没有让她失去生命。
She was really scared, but I didn't know that was something I should tell a teacher or any authority. All I could think of was to tell her to leave them, or not join them for those sessions. Looking back, I'm glad my ignorance hadn't cause her to lose her life.

还记得在我的中学网上日记曾写过,如果你想看到血,不如就去捐血,不会浪费。这个说法有点偏离道德,却是我希望朋友不要自残的努力吧。
I remember writing in one of my older blogs, that if you get a thrill from seeing your blood, you may just as well go for blood donation drive. That may be a little questionable morally, but it was my way of stopping my friends to not do anything silly.

最近发生了一名年仅15岁的少女自杀,引发了网民热烈讨论。
The case of Amanda Todd's suicide from bullying went viral lately.


她在世界精神健康日这天自杀了。但她在上个月把自己的故事通过纸卡记录下来,上载到YouTube跟大家分享。这段视频也随着她的逝世而疯狂传开。
She commited suicide on World Mental Health Day. She had uploaded a video of her story via cue cards presentation onto YouTube. It went viral following her death.



 
 
她在网上给陌生人看胸部、照片传开、吸毒、性交、被打,述说了生命的挣扎。
She showed a stranger her boobs, the photos went public, she did drugs, telling about all the struggles in her life.
 
在不到9分钟的短片中,不禁思考——就没有一个人能够拉她一把吗?
The video made me wonder - was there no one, absolutely no one, who could help her?
 
精神病康复是个灰色地带。很多时候,我们都会面对挫折、失败、失望,甚至是掉进谷底。却不是每一个人都能够爬出谷底,用谷底的力量让自己更加努力地追求成功。
Mental health is indeed a grey area. So often we would face setbacks, failures, disappointments or hit rock bottom. But many people don't have the ability or courage to get out of it, and fight against the currents to prove their self-worth.
 
看看现在的年轻人在Facebook上所反映的,就是不定时的炸弹。
Seeing how youths use Facebook, it's like seeing accidents waiting to happen.
 
他们在社交网站冲动的留言和反应,很可能就会成为一个人走上绝路的导火线。但年轻人没感觉、不懂。
Those trolling social media platforms leaving hurtful comments could very well be the triggers of suicides. But those teens don't know, because they don't see the significance and impact of the smallest comments they make.
 
或许有些朋友让你很肚烂,整天在Facebook和Twitter上emo。冲动下,你可能就去like他的牢骚,但那可能是导火线,可能会引发他某些反应,到时候你无法挽回你无意的残忍。
Maybe some people piss you off for being emo on social media platform. But there's no need for you to add salt to their wounds, because you can never be sure what reaction your hate or sarcasm may trigger.
 
那是他的伤口,你可以呵护、可以无视,但绝对不要去撒盐。那个代价,你负担不起啊。
That's his wound that he's opening up to you, and you may choose to show him some TLC, you may choose not to give a damn, but whatever you do, don't make it hurt even more for him. You would NEVER be able to pay the price of your rashness.
 
比起成绩优异,我更希望年轻人能够学习同理心、疼惜他人、泛爱众。
Compared to academic achievements, I would rather youths learn how to emphatize with others, learning to love and care.
 
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